Perfectionism is a trap that women easily
get caught in. For the purpose of this entry, lets define perfectionism as the endless pursuit for better than our best.
There are many times when I have caught myself trying to outdo myself in an
attempt to be perfect. We so quickly discount our best as “could be better”, as
we compare to someone else’s best. We discount our “good enough” as “never
enough”. This “never enough” mindset leads us on an endless chase. It is exhausting
to be more than God has called us to. We need to say “enough!” to perfectionism.
Here are some reasons why
perfection is not worth pursuing:
-It will never end. The pursuit for perfection will never end. We will
keep doing more and more. We will become unsatisfied with our best. When
achieve one goal, it will lead to the next goal. Solomon spoke of what we
should be in pursuit of. He said, “Whoever pursues righteousness and kindness
will find life, righteousness, and honor” (Proverbs 21: 21). Righteousness and
kindness are God-centered; what can Christ do to make me better? The way of
perfection is me-centered; what can I do to be better? In a world that desires
to distract us with the temporary, may we follow the things that will never
fade.
-It will prevent us from feeling qualified: Perfectionism can make
us feel like we must do or be things as a pre-requisite for being chosen. We
may say “no” to a call on our life from the Holy Spirit because we don’t feel
qualified. We may feel like we have to do
and be x, y, and z before we are able to be enough. We are qualified
in Christ. Paul says, “Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim
anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God” (2 Corinthians 3:5
ESV). Our sufficiency comes from our Father. This stands in stark
contrast with perfectionism, which says that I can do anything better because
of me. When we can realize who makes us complete, we will say “yes” to
the things God has called us to.
-It will cause us to be critical: When I think about people in the
Bible who expected perfection, I think about the Judaizers. The Judaizers
thought that only people who were circumcised to receive salvation. By keeping
the law, the Judaizers believed they were qualified to follow Jesus. Peter does
the unthinkable when he goes and spends time fellowshipping with the Gentiles,
uncircumcised people. When Peter goes to talk to the church, “the circumcision
party criticized him, saying ‘You went to the uncircumcised men and ate
with them’” (Acts 11:2-3 ESV). We develop a critical spirit when we start to
think that perfection is necessary.
-It will lead to procrastination: Often times, I have procrastinated
starting something for fear it won’t be to the highest standard. I have put off
blog posts for fear it would turn out less than perfect. In essence, I have put off the calling God
has for my words for fear they won’t sound good enough. If God has called me to something, He will equip me to complete it.
Paul speaks of the way the Word of God trains the believer with the tools for
the task. He says, “All scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for
teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that
the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” (2 Timothy
3:16-17 ESV). According to Merriam Webster, the word “equip” means to “furnish
for service or action”. Let’s let God do the work of preparing us for the task
He has for us.
-It doesn’t last: The greatest things on Earth found in nature,
understanding, and relationships have limits. The things that give us Earthly enjoyment
have an expiration date. The Word of God, in contrast, has eternal value. The unnamed
author of Psalm 119 says, “I have seen a limit to all perfection, but your
commandment is exceedingly broad” (Psalm 119:96 ESV). I desire to keep my focus on things that are
important to God. I don’t want to get caught up in things that are temporary.
At some time in our life, we are
all going to feel not “enough”. When we say “enough!” to perfectionism, I think
we will really see that we are enough in Christ. The things we were trying to
perfect at were really restricting us from doing the things that God has called
us to do. When we lay our perfectionism at the feet of Jesus, He can begin
equipping us with the attitudes that will lead to worthy living. We can begin
to say “yes” to the things that might be scary because we know that God is making
us qualified for the task.